The power of the testimony was amazing at our Good Friday
service this year. Each one who shared
had a different story of suffering, and how God was with them and got them
through it.
Jimmy and I are blessed to know a lot of the “fill in the
blank” details on our son, Chris’ testimony, and I thought you might enjoy
hearing a little more of our journey with cancer.
Did you know Chris has been under chemotherapy treatment for
five years? He goes through a regiment
of four days of nauseating, diarrhea-producing chemical infusions every 3 to 5
weeks up at Monmouth Medical
Center . He calls it his “poison week” and posts on
facebook when poison week is over.
Chris doesn’t remember some of the details of his first two
months after being diagnosed with cancer.
But Jimmy and I remember them vividly.
We were advised that, with treatment, Chris, then 26 years old, might
live another six months or so. Within a
few weeks of his initial diagnosis at Newark
Beth Israel Hospital ,
Chris became bedridden because his legs were so swollen with fluid that he
could not stand on them. Shortly
thereafter he developed an ulcer and began vomiting up blood. He was rushed into emergency surgery, a scope
inserted down his throat as the doctors tried to cauterize the ulcer. Right after the procedure, Jimmy and I were
with him in recovery and he once again began vomiting up blood. Chris was so weak by then that another
procedure was not possible. He was put
in the ICU, and given multiple pints of blood.
The doctors told us that they had no way of knowing if the ulcer was
successfully cauterized and the blood he vomited right after the procedure was
from the blood left pooling in his stomach, or if the ulcer was continuing to
bleed.
One of the nurses took me aside and told me that while she
was getting Chris settled in ICU he told her he was afraid of dying in his
sleep. After she had gone, I talked with
Chris about his fears. “What will happen
to you if you do die in your sleep, Chris?” I asked. If you know Chris, sometimes his answers are
not immediate. He paused, and said, “I
will be with Jesus.” He dozed off after
that.
We kept vigil at Chris’ bedside all night long. I felt like I was breathing my prayers. With every inhale and exhale I was begging
God to heal my son. Emergency prayer
requests went out via phone calls and emails.
I told Chris’ brother and three sisters that if the bleeding had not
been stopped, it was possible Chris would not live through the night.
Sometime around 6 a.m. Chris woke up and looked at me sitting at the
foot of his bed. “I’m still alive,” he
said. And we both laughed.
Chris did not vomit any more blood, so we knew the ulcer had
been successfully cauterized. Better
than that, he began telling the nurses he was hungry. They were reluctant at first to allow
anything into his stomach, but finally allowed clear fluids, than soft
foods. The pastors of Shore Vineyard
came later that first day in the ICI, gowned up and prayed over Chris. By the next day, he was transferred out of
ICU and back to the regular cancer ward.
Chris began chemotherapy, and Shore Vineyard Church began
fasting on Thursdays and coming together to pray for him on Thursday nights (in
our pre S-HOP days there was only one prayer meeting on Thursday nights, 7 p.m.
to 9 p.m.). Jimmy and I would drive up
to Newark every night after work to
be with Chris.
One Sunday, as Jimmy and I attended church and then got
ready to leave for Newark , Pastor
Brett brought us up front and placed his arms around our shoulders. He addressed the church and told them that
from now on, “Chris is your son, your brother”.
I cannot describe the amazing feeling we would have when we were sitting
with Chris on a Thursday night, knowing that you all had his back, and ours,
that you were depriving yourself of food, and giving up your evening to cry out
to God for my son, now your son.
In addition to the prayer warriors in our church, there have
been many other faithful family and friends who signed up to receive the prayer
emails we send out on Chris’ behalf. I
hear from you often that you are still praying, and rejoicing with us along the
way. You are all family now.
Chris was discharged from Newark Beth Israel in mid-January,
2009. He was down to 125 pounds and very
weak. Five years later he has a pot
belly and a hearty laugh. He spends his
days listening to worship and bible teaching online and on the tv. He prays Psalm 91 over himself every
day. He loves to be in church every
week. He serves in the Thursday evening
session at the Shore House of Prayer.
Our Friday night Redwood Group often hears Chris upstairs singing and
worshiping with the World Revival
Church in Kansas
City as we meet downstairs. And I echo with Apostle John, “I have no
greater joy than this, to know that my children are walking in the truth”. (3
John 1:4)