Thursday, June 4, 2026

Now Get Up and Make Your Bed!


Aeneas’ Story


Today I made my bed for the first time in eight years.


Maybe it doesn’t sound like a great accomplishment when I put it that way.


Let me explain.


I’ve been paralyzed and bedridden for the past eight years. Before that, I was seen as a hard-working young man, a blessing to my family, but after the accident that snapped my back and rendered me immobile I became basically helpless. I couldn’t join my new friends for worship and prayer at each other’s homes, but thankfully they came to me as often as they could.


One day, when I was at my lowest, my brother in Jesus, Barnabas reminded me of my own name, Aeneas.


“Your name means praise,” Barnabas told me.


“But I’m basically useless now,” I argued. “How can I bring any praise to God in this state, in this bed?”


“You bring praise to God just by being you, who he made you to be, Aeneas. And yes, even while you remain prone in this sick bed, you serve all of us.”


“What? How do I ‘serve’ you, Barnabas?” I bitterly shook my head.


“You pray for me, do you not?”


“Well, yes, I prayed for you and the others as you ventured into the city to share the good news last Sunday.”


“And your prayers were felt and empowered us to share boldly the goodness of God in the marketplace. Several new brothers and sisters were added to the fellowship that very day. Truly ‘one sows, one reaps, but all share in the harvest’” Barnabas grabbed my hand. “Thank you, my friend.”


Tears welled up in my eyes. Yes, I was still loved and needed by my family in Jesus. And yes, I determined in my heart that I would continue to be ‘praise’ even I as lay in my bed.


Until today. Today Barnabas came running into my room before the sun came up over the hill behind my open window.


“Aeneas!” he shouted, out of breath. “Peter is here, Simon Peter is here in Lydda and he’s coming to see you!”


Barnabas helped me to bathe and dressed me in clean, fresh-smelling clothes as I lay helpless on my bed.


“Why would Peter, the apostle come to my house?” I wondered to myself after Barnabas had left to guide Peter to my home.

In response to my unspoken question, I felt the nearness of the Holy Spirit of Jesus wrap around me, and my heart swelled with praise to the One who always made me feel valued, loved, a part of his family.


Not long after that I heard the many voices of my friends, and they filed into my little room, gathering around my bed.


Barnabas made the introductions. “Peter, meet my dear friend, Aeneas!”


Peter looked intently at me. I saw him scan my prone, immobile frame, and then his eyes found mine. He said nothing at first. It looked as if he was listening to someone, his head slightly tilted as if leaning in to hear better. He briefly lifted his head toward heaven, then turned his full attention back on me.


“Aeneas, man of praise, Jesus the Anointed One instantly and divinely heals you.” Peter stopped and smiled. “And Jesus tells you, ‘Now get up and make your bed’.”


I felt the healing in my spirit, not in my body, but at the sound of Peter’s command I simply obeyed , threw my formerly paralyzed legs over the side of my cot, and rose to my feet for the first time in eight long years.


I spied my mother in the crowd, tears running down her face as she smiled widely. “You heard him, Aeneas!” she laughed. “Now make your bed!”


I began to laugh with her and all my friends joined in with hilarious mirth, tears of joy on every face, including my dearest friend, Barnabas and my mentor, Papa Peter.


I was the center of attention as I bowed to the room, then with much flourish smoothed the worn sheets on my thin mattress, pulled the blanket over the top and tucked it in all around.


Today, the first day of the rest of my life, I made my bed and called it praise as I fully intend to do every day for the rest of my life.



Saturday, May 9, 2026

It's Your Wedding Day!

 

I had been, have been feeling cranky, and angry lately, even to the point of not wanting to try anymore. Feeling rejection by the people closest to me, I just wanted to run or fade away.


That’s when God whispered to me “It’s your wedding day.”


That got my attention, even though God was mistaken. “It’s April, and I was married in June”, I told him.


But God tenderly repeated to me, “it’s your wedding day.”


Then he reminded me of something that happened over 50 years ago, on my actual wedding day, June 29, 1974.


I had started out the day wearing a comfortable flannel shirt and jeans as I drove up to the hair salon in Ocean Gate, NJ that morning. My hairdresser took her time arranging my hair in a simple pageboy style that would frame my face under the white, lace-embellished hat I would be wearing in the wedding ceremony.


After I left the salon I stopped at the grocery store. At the register I ended up interacting with an elderly man in the line who somehow mistook me for a guy, addressing me as “young man”. I did not correct him, just paid for my groceries and fled the store feeling rather ashamed.


Here it was my wedding day, the day I was supposed to feel special, beautiful, desirable, but instead I walked out of the grocery store in shame. Instead of being seen as a beautiful bride, I was perceived as a guy by this man I encountered. Yes, I was wearing shapeless clothing, a baggy flannel shirt over well worn jeans, but gee whiz, I had just come out of the hair salon with this pageboy style that framed my face. What was wrong with me? How homely was my face? How harsh were my mannerisms that I was mistaken for a man?


I went home, joined my sister and friends preparing for the wedding, but didn’t tell anyone about my shameful encounter at the store. I didn’t want to think about it, much less talk about it.


Fast forward 53 years. I still didn’t want to think about that awful event.


I prayed “God, why are you bringing up this memory now? I don’t recall if I ever shared my painful encounter with anyone before, just pushed it out of my mind for over 50 years. What possible good can be gained from thinking about it now, when I’m already cranky and angry and ready to throw in the towel?”


Then Father God reminded me of how wonderful my wedding day turned out to be.


And yes, it was wonderful. The sun came out after a week of rain so we could be married in our outdoor venue, our “plan A”. And not once during my wedding and reception and the honeymoon that followed did I think about that awful encounter in the A&P with that man.


What changed?” God asked me.


When I walked down the aisle at the Ocean County Park and saw my Jimmy standing there eyes on me and me alone, I forgot the shame.”


That’s strange.” God said.


Why, God,” I asked.


Do you remember Taffy Tucker back in 1974? God continued. “Do you remember how insecure you were back then at 20 years old? You were always second guessing every decision you made, always put yourself down, never believed you were special or valuable. Jimmy had to continually remind you during the years of your courtship that you were worth loving and it wasn’t just a mistake that he fell in love with you, somehow being deceived into thinking you were worth his love and affection.”


Yes,” I admitted to God. “That’s a pretty accurate assessment of my self worth at that stage of my life. I remember.”


So what happened that allowed you to drop the shame and enjoy your wedding day?”


When I looked down the aisle and locked eyes with Jimmy, I forgot the shame. I felt loved, beautiful and desirable whenever I caught Jimmy’s gaze on me, and his eyes were on me all day long. Every kiss we shared was electric, and we found ourselves staring into each other’s eyes many, many times throughout the day.


God smiled, remembering with me the events of that beautiful day.


Then he continued. “Knowing who you were and your insecurity at that time, why do you suppose that man mistaking you for a guy and not a woman on your wedding day didn’t just destroy you and ruin your day?”


I pondered his question for a minute.


I guess I felt so loved by Jimmy. His eyes were constantly focused on me, from the second he saw me coming down the grassy aisle and continuing through the ceremony, the photos, the reception. He kept telling me he loved me, stealing kisses even when the glasses weren’t being clinked by the wedding guests. And I just felt so beautiful, so loved, so desired by this man who could have chosen any other young girl as his bride, but somehow had consciously chosen me – that value he placed on me eclipsed the unfortunate encounter in the grocery store.”


As I considered what Father God was reminding me about, I marveled. I remembered vividly how negative I was at that time when it came to my value. To think that I encountered a man in the morning who challenged my very identity as a woman, yet the amazing display of love and affection I encountered in the afternoon dispelled my doubts as to my value, such that my memories of my wedding were truly positive.


That’s the power of being loved,” God said. “The truth of the unabashed love of your Jimmy drove away the doubts, leaving you feeling beautiful, loved, and desired.”


So, Taffy. I want to tell you this. Today, while you’re feeling cranky and angry and ready to give up, I want to tell you this: it’s your wedding day.”


I was speechless, beginning to grasp what he was telling me.


And as the week went on and I was tempted many times over to doubt myself, my value, my “raison d’etre”, to compare myself with the people around me and decide I still don’t measure up, God kept whispering that same phrase.


It’s your wedding day.”


Today I choose you above any other person, any other woman on the planet. Today I pledge myself to love and cherish you. I see you, I know you, and I choose you this day, every day. It’s always your wedding day. Now go ahead and enjoy this day and every day to come, knowing the truth of who you are to me. No one, not even a near-sighted old man, can steal that away from you. Just keep your eyes on me. Just one glance of your eyes, my bride, ravishes my heart. I chose you and every day I choose you still.”


So for you, reading this little account, I tell you this, “It’s your wedding day.” I don’t care if you’re married, single, divorced, widowed, in or out of a relationship. Today, the God of all the earth chooses you, out of all women, to be in covenant with him, to love and cherish for all eternity..


Listen to what he says to you, Listen with your heart.


It’s your wedding day! Today my eyes of love are fixed on you, and just one glance of your eyes ravishes my heart, my darling, my bride. Believe me, receive my love and affection, and live in the joy that no one can steal from you, knowing that I chose, and still choose you to belong to me.”

Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.” Isaiah 43:4


The LORD your God is among you; He is mighty to save. He will rejoice over you with gladness; He will quiet you with His love; He will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17


The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with loving devotion.” Jeremiah 31:3


He who did not spare His own Son but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also, along with Him, freely give us all things?” Romans 8:32


You have ravished my heart, my sister, my bride; you have ravished my heart with one glance of your eyes.” Song of Songs 4:9